Since moving up north, friendship is something that has been at the forefront of my mind and something that I’ve begun to cherish more and more. It’s one of the loveliest feelings in the world to have someone you can confide in and share your experiences with. Whether it’s every week you check in with friends, or every month or even every year, it’s comforting to know there are people out there who have a connection to you and you to them.
Throughout your life, you must meet hundreds, maybe even thousands of people, but I think the friendships you make with just a handful of these people in some way influences or changes you.
Whilst I have some truly wonderful guy friends who I would be completely lost without, female friendships hold a special place in my heart. I really feel strongly about women supporting women- I think this is partly due to the industry I work in which is largely female and partly due to my upbringing and the female influencers I follow. I think sometimes on social media it’s easy to compare yourself to others and fret about where you are in your life compared to where your friends are in theirs. Each person has their own story and their own problems that you can’t necessarily see behind a wall of perfectly curated pictures, status uploads and the like. Everyone is different and shines in their own way, friendships should not be about outshining each other but supporting each others flames and growing stronger together.
Reflecting back on the friendships I’ve made in the last few years, I truly believe they’ve shaped the kind of person I am today and the sort of person I hope to be in the future. At university I found a big part of the experience was finding out who I was as a person- what I enjoyed doing, being more sure of myself, discovering both my flaws and my strengths. Course friends but particularly housemates played a major part in the kind of person I was when I left uni- a more confident, relaxed and happier individual.
Since then, I’ve made some life-long friendships in the work place both in the UK and abroad. Friendships come in so many different forms; some friends come in and out of your life, some friends you grow apart from and some are just always there and stick by you no matter what. Each type of friendship is important in some way, whether it’s simply the things you learn from each other, the things you share with each other or the way friendships shape, influence and change you.